Calling In “The One”
Many of us are looking for that one person to spend the rest of our lives with; a partner to go through life’s ups and downs with. But many of us have trouble finding our special someone. We wind up in a vicious cycle where we continually attract the same types of people and we have relationships that follow the same unfulfilling negative patterns.
What if there was a way to break that cycle? Here are four steps to attract the right partner into your life. You can do these steps on your own, can get some coaching help, and/or do the Calling In “The One” program and efficiently and effectively start putting the steps to work for you going forward.
1. Focus on What You Want
We attract what we put out into the universe. Here’s the problem: Many of us don’t know what kind of energy we’re putting out there. What are the thoughts that you’re spending the most mental energy on? Are they positive (creative, motivating, fun, loving) or negative (alone, scared, unhappy, victim, guilt or lack)? We lead such busy lives that we run on autopilot most of the time.
There are two things that may be interfering with your ability to attract the right partner:
- Your thought patterns
- Lack of self-love
Take a moment each day to pay attention to your thoughts. Capture your thoughts by journaling. What are they focused on? If you’re putting your mental energy – your thoughts – on what you don’t want, that’s what you’re going to attract.
Fear, feeling like a victim and a lack of self-love can also keep us from putting the right energy out there. The partners we attract into our lives are often a reflection of how we view and value ourselves.
But what if you shifted that focus to what you do want? What if you learned how to love, and value yourself? It’s amazing how quickly our social circles and partners change when we start vibrating and living at a higher level and begin valuing ourselves.
2. Remember That You are Whole and Complete
We are all searching for that someone to make us complete – our other halves. We don’t realize that we are whole and complete just as we are.
Our life partners are people who support us and help us along our path in life. They help us become better versions of ourselves while bringing more love, deep friendship, and partnership into our lives. But they will never make us feel complete. Only you have the power to make yourself feel this way.
We hear it all the time – happiness is found within. To attract the perfect partner and to enjoy a healthy relationship, we must love ourselves, feel complete in ourselves and be happy with ourselves and life.
3. Accept That No One is Perfect
Many of us are searching for that perfect partner – someone who has every trait on our list. But the hard truth is that no one is perfect. We all have flaws. We all have past trauma, emotional baggage, bad habits and other quirks.
That’s why we talk about attracting the right partner – not the perfect partner. Because there is no such thing as a perfect person or relationship. We would also have to be perfect to attract the perfect partner. You would be miserable if you were always trying to be perfect, especially, perfect for someone else and their version of perfect.
The key to a healthy relationship is accepting this reality. Accept that your partner will have flaws and learn to embrace them. We are each perfectly imperfect in our own way. After all, our so-called flaws are what make us unique and beautiful. Accepting and loving our true and wonderfully special imperfect selves allows us to love our partner for who they truly are.
We all want someone who will love and accept us as we are, and that requires us to do the same. At the same time, we must learn to accept and appreciate ourselves for who we are. Once we can truly see ourselves, we can then either accept our undesirable traits or decide to heal and grow out of them. If we cannot accept ourselves – flaws and all – then we will continue to attract partners who are unaccepting or unwilling to love us the way we are and to commit.
4. Break Old Patterns and Self-Limiting Beliefs
At this point in life, many of us are stuck in our old ways and thought patterns. Our self-limiting beliefs and the false stories we tell ourselves about yourself, others and life make it difficult to put all of these steps into action.
It’s difficult to see our negative thought patterns and old habits because we’re stuck in our heads. In a way, we have blinders on because it’s how we lived, what we’ve believed, and what we’ve known for almost all our lives. Yet, breaking the patterns, focusing on what’s really true and how compassionate, loving, authentic, and gifted you really are is the first step to start creating the new you and future you love.
Many times, without a different perspective, point of view or some help, it can be a serious challenge and take a lot of work to see and change what we don’t even know that we don’t know about ourselves. There is a tried and proven way to clear out the old and start creating the new.
Through my Calling in “The One” program and one-on-one coaching sessions, we can identify those old limiting beliefs and false stories. Together we can effectively name, face, embrace and replace them so that you can start creating the love and life that you want.