Do you want to be the best single father possible? Single dads have a lot to offer their children, but being a father also comes with a steep learning curve. You’re going to get a lot right, and a lot wrong.
A lot of what you learn about being a single father will be hands-on, but a little advice can go a long way in your journey of being the best dad you can be.
Advice that no one ever gave you, that can help you as a single father, includes:
Single Father Rule #1 – Express Your Love to Your Child
Single dads must express their love to their children. Communication and reassurance will build confidence in a child and also lead to bonding. Remember, a dad who succeeds is the one who:
- Focuses on the needs of the child
- Reassures the child that they’ll always be there
- Provides a feeling of continual safety
- Repeated assure your child that none of what’s happening with mom and dad is their fault.
If you, as a father, use your time wisely, you can create a loving environment that will help your child grow and prosper.
Single Father Rule #2 – Kids Will Push Your Boundaries
Family members, a former spouse or ex, are all very influential in a child’s life. Your child may be told, “dad makes more money, ask him.” Kids naturally try to push the boundaries, in relationships.
For example, your child may ask for items that are teetering in the realm of being outrageous.
They’re seeking attention. As a single dad, the best advice that you can receive is to set practical, healthy boundaries that show that love can’t be bought. Attention is the currency of love so very often, spending quality time with your child is what they want most. When you couple this point with the last one, you’ll show your child that love doesn’t have a price tag.
Single Father Rule #3 – Kids Will Test You: It’s Normal
One of the first things you’ll learn as a single father is that your kids will test you. When parents are no longer together, there’s an innate fear that dad or mom will leave them. Kids will often cause arguments or disagree with new children in your life, and they will vie for your attention any way that they can.
Competing with another child isn’t done out of malice – your child is concerned that they’ll lose your love. Remember attention is the currency of love that they will understand so spend it wisely.
You need to show equal love and be able to withstand the bouts of jealousy and boasting that is associated with this behavior. Children do not mean to purposely hurt you. It’s best to give your child attention, even if that means doing simple chores together and not necessarily talking about the deep meaning of life.
Single Father Rule #4 – It’s Okay to Do Things Differently
Mom and dad do things differently. You might order pizza instead of cooking, or you may want to spend the weekend camping rather than relaxing at home. It’s okay and normal for dad to do things differently. This difference is healthy and normal for them to experience, it’s why they need a dad and a mom.
You’re different than your ex, and kids will accept that even if they:
Being a single father is both challenging and rewarding. It’s a journey that requires love, patience, and the willingness to learn and grow. While there may not be a manual for being a single dad, there is valuable advice that can make a difference in your role as a father. Remember to express your love to your child, set healthy boundaries, understand their testing behavior, and embrace the uniqueness of your parenting style. By following these rules and staying committed to your child’s well-being, you can navigate the single fatherhood journey with confidence and create a loving environment for your child to thrive.
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